Rhi's Designs

Motivate-to be moved to do something, that is my definition. Something as a parent that I have always struggled with is good motivation to my children. I don't know if I have found the answers yet? But I have found the things that I don't do well that I need to make changes. Dr. Haim Grinott, said in his book, Lessons to Guide your parenting,  "Parents speak intimately, they speak to the heart, when they adopt a language of caring, which is sensitive to their children's needs feelings. It not only helps children to have a positive image of themselves that is confident and secure but teaches them to treat their parents with respect and consideration." With teenagers, there are times when no matter what you say will motivate them to do anything. I have tried to talk more gently towards my teens ans give them expectations of what I would like to see from their work. By spending time and talking about what I would like them to do and then pitching in to do the wor...

Self-care- Marion G. Romney said, "without self-reliance one cannot exercise these innate desires to serve. How can we give if there is nothing there? Food for the hungry can't come from empty shelves. Money to assist the needy can't come from an empty purse. Support and understanding can't come from the emotionally starved. Teaching can't come from the unlearned. And most important of all spiritual guidance cannot come from the spiritually weak.  This time in my parenting class I have learned that I need to take more time for the self-care of mom! This is a scary time in the world and if I'm not stocked in faith, hope and courage, how to I expect my children to feel or know where to turn if I don't teach them? I have thought over the many weeks what types of activities am I showing them by my example of filling my oil lamp to be spiritually fed? I have tried to spend more time on my knees praying for strength to get through school, to help my children m...

Quarantine, what a time to live in. I don't feel like this time has been effecting me like many others. I have seen my children going a little stir crazy, especially when I get home from work. They have said it's because they are seeing another person for the first time. I still have to work at my full-time job during this time. Since they are at home, I think about how they are being safe. I have also thought about the many influences that they are letting their minds see. They are good kids but this last school year has been a rough one. Both are in the stage where they are liking the opposite sex. Not more than a crush on someone. But I have seen them handle their own set of dramas or novellas is what we like to call them. My daughter has asked me several times why her friends have boyfriends and why she doesn't? I'm actually happy that she doesn't but I know how it feels to not feel loved and parent love isn't the same. While I deal with one person who d...